Anger is a natural emotion—one that can serve as a protective signal when boundaries are crossed or injustices occur. But when left unmanaged, anger can fester into resentment, self-destruction, or even relapse. For those in recovery, unresolved anger and past trauma often fuel addictive behaviors, creating a cycle of pain and escape.

The good news? Healing is possible. By learning to acknowledge, process, and ultimately release these emotions, you can reclaim your peace and strengthen your sobriety. Explore healthy ways to let go of anger, break free from the grip of past wounds, and embrace a calmer, more empowered recovery journey.

Five Ways to Practice Letting Go of Anger & Past Trauma

1. Set boundaries for yourself.

Boundaries are those invisible lines between what we’re willing to accept and what we consider unacceptable. Anger can come from allowing people to say and do things to us that we don’t like, feel threatened by, or feel hurt when they happen. Perhaps you’ve poorly communicated these boundaries and placed yourself in a position to be hurt. You may realize how you’ve given people permission to anger you and not known how to stop this from happening.

Physical boundaries can help you begin addressing anger. It may be creating physical distance between you and another person. If interactions with them in person feel harmful, pause those interactions or stop them altogether. There’s no need to risk feeling angry if that’s what feels inevitable to you.

2. Explore how getting hurt has created anger in you.

Think about the words or deeds of one person that made you feel angry. If it was a close relationship, you may have felt betrayed by them. They may have created a serious problem for you. Perhaps it involved money.

Not every instance that made you angry has to be intentional. It could have come from a misunderstanding or a difference in expectations. In some cases, the person you’re angry at may not even know how you reacted to a situation. Reflect on each relationship shaped by the anger you’ve held onto and what it’s done to you personally. Identify the areas of self that have become threatened or hurt, and examine what fears are driving your continued resentment.

3. Allow your negativity to come out… with a limit and in the appropriate space.

Dealing with anger and past trauma doesn’t come from ignoring it. It takes directly addressing it to manage it in a healthy way. Your negative feelings can be expressed with someone you trust, such as a sponsor or therapist, or written down in a safe place.

Limiting that negativity allows you to find a window of time to express your feelings. There should be a specific end to it, though. If you think you need 30 minutes to talk about those feelings of anger, set a timer and bring your sharing to a close once it goes off. If you need more time, try coming back to it later so you’re not letting the intense emotion take over so much of your day. Therapy sessions can be a great place for expressing this anger in a controlled way.

4. Treat yourself with great care.

Care means different things to different people. All you need to think about here is what choices will help you improve your health, your well-being, and your happiness. It could be a favorite food, a preferred place to spend time, or a physical activity that you really enjoy.

Self-care isn’t just about doing things by yourself. It can involve asking for help and accepting help when it’s offered. Maintaining connections with friends and family members who are reliable and trustworthy is a self-care strategy worth devoting time to regularly.

3. Practice the art of forgiveness.

Holding onto anger toward someone becomes an endless burden for you to carry. Forgiving others helps you release that burden and restore a sense of peace to your life. This can be considered another form of self-care as it allows you to focus on healing while you let go of the feelings of anger, shame, or guilt hanging over the relationship.

For some people, forgiveness may feel difficult to offer, especially when anger and past trauma are related. In these situations, it may be helpful to consider the times you’ve angered someone else and were offered forgiveness. It may also mean seeking therapeutic support to unravel the trauma. Keep in mind, forgiving someone else doesn’t mean their behavior will change. It can be a reminder of how you’re the only one in control of how you respond to things that make you angry. Healthy responses, rather than self-destructive ones, can keep you focused on creating and nurturing your own happiness.

The Link Between Anger, Trauma, and Addiction

Anger and trauma frequently coexist with substance use disorders. When left unprocessed, these emotions can manifest as:

• Resentment and self-sabotage

• Chronic stress or anxiety

• Reliance on substances to suppress painful memories

Dual diagnosis treatment at Origins acknowledges that true recovery requires emotional healing alongside addiction treatment. By integrating evidence-based therapies like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), and trauma-informed care, clients learn to process past hurts in a safe, structured environment.

How Dual Diagnosis Treatment Helps Release Anger & Trauma

1. Identifying Root Causes – Many people use substances to cope with unresolved trauma or overwhelming anger. Origins’ clinicians work with clients to uncover these triggers and develop healthier responses.

2. Trauma-Informed Therapies – Trauma informed techniques like EMDR help reprocess traumatic memories, reducing their emotional charge and breaking the cycle of addiction.

3. Mindfulness & Emotional Regulation – Through practices like meditation and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), clients learn to manage anger without turning to substances.

4. Healthy Coping Mechanisms – Treatment at Origins emphasizes replacing self-destructive habits with constructive outlets, such as exercise, journaling, or creative expression.

Hannah’s House is a well-known care provider offering a range of treatment programs targeting the recovery from substance use, mental health issues, and beyond. Our primary mission is to provide a clear path to a life of healing and restoration. We offer renowned clinical care for addiction and have the compassion and professional expertise to guide you toward lasting sobriety.

*This article is intended solely for informational purposes and should not be regarded as a replacement for professional medical advice. While the content has undergone Origin Texas Recovery’s thorough editorial review process, it may not necessarily represent the opinions, policies, or procedures of our facility or staff. We strive to ensure that our content is medically accurate; however, treatments evolve, and we cannot guarantee the current accuracy or reliability of the information provided. For medical emergencies, call 9-1-1 immediately.